Silent Agreements: How to Free Your Relationships of Unspoken Expectations

Resentment and conflict between romantic partners, friends, and coworkers or you and your boss are often caused by the unspoken beliefs and expectations each individual involved brings to the table. We all have some implicit "rules" that we expect others to follow, such as "The person who makes more money should pay for the dates," "My boss should offer me a raise," or "My friend should get me a birthday present even though I said I didn't want one." Even if they sound silly when stated plainly like this, that doesn't stop us all from harboring such hopes, perhaps secretly from ourselves. But these expectations, often based on our earliest experiences, rarely line up with reality, and thus we begin to build deep resentments when others don't behave as we assume they should. This book is all about learning to identify the silent "agreements" that govern your relationships and move beyond them into clear and healthy communication habits. 

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