Sex From Scratch

Sex From Scratch: Making Your Own Relationship Rules

by Sarah Mirk Author

Relationship advice for an open-minded modern world

Modern life calls for modern relationship advice. Sex From Scratch is a love and dating guidebook that gleans real-life knowledge from smart people in a variety of nontraditional relationships. Instead of telling people how to snag a man, seduce a woman, or find “true love,” the book sums up what dozens of diverse folks have learned the hard way over time. Sarah Mirk offers tips and stories from the steadfastly single to people making open relationships work, from people who’ve decided they’re never going to have kids to parents who are consciously producing the next generation. No matter what type of relationship you're in or what type you want, Mirk's reporterly wisdom and sense of humor provides perspective, humor, and down to earth guidance. This is an essential, fun, insightful resource whose time has come. The 2nd edition contains a ton of new interviews and updates.  

Featured interviews include Betty Dodson, Michelle Tea, Aya de Leon, Tomas Moniz, Margaret Jacobsen, Ev'Yan Whitney, and more.


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Comments & Reviews


"Whether you're highly unorthodox or in the most vanilla marriage of all time, there's something in this book for everyone to learn."


"Here is an amazing 186-page revelation devoted to the ins and outs- mostly ins- of sexual activity. Many questions that the reader has asked, plus many questions that the reader probably never thought about, are answered..."


"seven conversational chapters, each of which drops knowledge from feminist genius heroes like Michelle Tea and Betty Dodson — with illustrated portraits — to help you navigate the joys and demands of your particular relationship(s)."

Alex Madison - Bustle


"It's not some antiquated, Dr. Phil, Men are from Mars, Women are from the Kitchen garbage—Sex from Scratch illustrates working models of couples and families with gentle guidelines for getting exactly what you want."

Bri Pruett - Portland Mercury


"fresh, non-traditional, feminist, sex-positive take on the relationship guidebook. With a cast of stellar contributors on the roster"

-Largehearted Boy / Drawn & Quarterly


"Sex from Scratch is a map of the territory and a set of potential paths to take for people who find themselves figuring out what they want from relationships with another or multiple other people when they don't subscribe to the strictures of religion or vague societal values of what's 'right.'"

Glenn Fleishman - BoingBoing


"realistic, smart and helpful. Its wisdom will be of great benefit to teenagers and young adults who are trying to figure out dating, sexual attraction and, well, sexuality itself. Of course, conservatives and the religious right will go ballistic if schools hand out copies, but if educators really want an informed student body, they will confront the backlash and make Sex from Scratch an integral part of the sex ed curriculum."

Eleanor J Bader -