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Self-Compassion: Be Kind to Yourself Instead of Striving for Bullshit “Self-Esteem"

by Faith G. Harper, PhD, LPC-S, ACS, ACN

For decades, the U.S. has been obsessed with "self-esteem" or rather with our lack of it. But self-esteem isn't actually that great, and getting all puffed up about yourself isn't exactly a recipe for the good life. How about self-compassion instead? Dr. Faith explains the difference between the two and offers some helpful exercises in developing more compassion for yourself. Which is very different, she explains, than letting yourself off the hook for your bullshit. It's more like accepting that you're human so that you can learn and do things better rather than pushing aside or wallowing in your mistakes. Bonus,kindness to yourself helps you be more kind to other people as well. Everyone wins!